Tag: disability

Plans for 2026

I started my website, Speaking Up BC, focused on disability and schools, in July 2021. At a time when I was so angry, all I wanted to do was scream from a mountain top.

I felt utterly dismissed and ignored. Every trick in the book to shorten our meetings, minimize what happened and EVERY FRIGGEN ATTEMPT to reduce their liability and push everything under a rug was happening. It was maddening.

Out of pure desperation for saving my sanity and soul, I started this website. I had no idea what was going to come of it. I just knew that I wanted to take all of the secret parts of education advocacy and expose them. To help other parents. To hopefully give them information and spare them learning things the hard way, so they can elevate what they need to do and get their kids’ support needs faster and be less traumatized by the path.

There are certain harsh realities of the education system that are actually pretty unbelievable. If I didn’t witness this stuff with my own eyes, I would have some doubts if someone else told me this.

However, my fight is now complete. I actually have felt physical withdrawal symptoms. The adrenaline and all of the other chemicals that put my body into fight mode are no longer needed. I feel like I am floating back to Earth with my feet on the ground.

I am still passionate about education equity. I still FEEL for all of the kids and parents/caregivers out there on a cellular level. But my rage is melting. My energy is becoming more strategic, focused and sustainable. Less reactive. Less wild. I understand how things work. I don’t like it. But, there is an awareness that resonates within me that doesn’t tear me apart anymore. It just informs me of what I need to do next. I am in the phase of being a lighthouse.

I have transferred the pages I want to keep onto my PATH website. That is my future. I love helping people. I look forward to sitting in front of all of the parents and students who contact me, providing them all of the information that I wish someone had told me.

I am not quite sure what I am going to do with my current blogs….I might make a digital book out of them and you can just download the book for free. I still haven’t figured it out yet, but all of the legal blogs for sure I am keeping available. Blogs in the future will be coming from my PATH website and will be focused on the written authority pieces of school advocacy. That includes external complaint systems information, orders, decisions, consent resolutions, policy changes, systemic change pieces, etc.

Speaking Up BC will be removed. I will only be managing and updating one website, not two. But I will not be rushing through this, so it will still be up for a couple/few months. Speaking Up BC to me = screaming from a mountain top. It just doesn’t resonate with me anymore.

Healing is a choice.

It’s not an easy path.

It’s one I am choosing to take.

It’s time to move to the next stepping stone.

Trying to Collaborate in Good Faith

Trying to collaborate in good faith and discuss “reasonable accommodations” can be the real murky (stressful) part of the accommodation process that has the most potential for disaster.

This is where we are at our most vulnerable.

Here is why.

(Please read every single word of the next paragraph. Twice if necessary.)

As part of the duty to accommodate, both parties are expected to collaborate in good faith. The accommodations offered by the school don’t need to be perfect or ideal for our children; they just need to be reasonable enough for them to be able to access their education. (Whatever that means.) Even though they have to meaningfully consult with us, the school gets to decide what is reasonable. We need to engage in the accommodation process and have a conversation about whether we think their suggestions for reasonable accommodations are going to work. They have the final decision-making power. Even if we don’t agree, if they draw the line in the sand and say this is it. We have the duty to facilitate that decision. Even if we think it is going to harm our kid. Then if it does harm our kid, we have to document it, and the conversation starts all over again. All the while, we need to be civil and can’t lose our shit. If they frustrate us and we shut down and stop engaging, we will have “frustrated the accommodation process”. In an employment situation, they can have your human rights complaint dismissed. However, this important case [L.B.v. Toronto School Board, para 77 (c)(d)], shows that in the education context, even without parental authority, the school still has to fulfill their legal obligations to your child. Just be prepared, they will blame you for everything if you file a human rights complaint. Well…. they always seem to do that anyway…but still. This case will be helpful.

Sounds fun eh?

If you are ready to rip your hair out, it’s not you. It’s them. They know exactly what they are doing as they drag you onto the hamster wheel and make you run and run and run. (Maybe the teachers aren’t in the know of these strategies, but the admin are.)

There are ways to get yourself off the hamster wheel.

These are not in any order of importance. Just a list of strategies to consider.

  1. Question and document their delay strategies as them not working in good faith. Or any other nonsense they do. You aren’t the only one who has to be collaborative. Delay strategies, ignoring you, dismissing your concerns, is not collaboration. How you question them will be the art of advocacy as to communicate what you are noticing, but not become adversarial.
    • Keep and log every email that they didn’t respond to and every meeting that was cancelled and delayed
    • Keep a timeline for how long things are taking the harm because of the delay
    • Email the list of concerns you have, and note the ones that have not been addressed or have a proposed resolution plan.
    • When you email, you can use the word “notice”. I have noticed that it’s been 3 weeks for us to have a proposed solution to my concerns outlined in my email Nov 12th: Concerns for XXXXX.
    • Another phrase that is good: “It is to my understanding….” And then state what you think, and seek clarification. Is my understanding correct?
    • Email sentences to use: “I am noticing….”, “It is to my understanding that….”, “Is it correct to assume…..” or “I am confused, can you please clarify…..”
  2. Question the reasonableness of their accommodation suggestions – Ask for evidence. Without using the word evidence. If they want to argue that they are providing your child reasonable accommodations to the tribunal, they are going to need to have EVIDENCE to show that.
    • Again, we are using emails as our tool here as documenting is sooooo very important. We absolutely want to communicate in emails. If they don’t want to communicate with you in emails, that is a red flag. (They are up to funky-monkey business, and they know it.) One way of asking for evidence is to say, can you explain to me how this accommodation works for XXXXX? It is extremely reasonable as a parent to want to understand how their plan is going to provide “the ramp”. Ask questions, get them to explain it to you. Don’t let them use vague language. Keep asking questions until you understand exactly what they are talking about. They will use fancy-pancy language with you, hoping to intimidate you. You have every right to understand exactly what they are talking about. If they are not using plain language and instead use jargon, that doesn’t make them look good. What is the point of communicating with each other if we don’t understand what we mean?
  3. Always ask HOW questions. They state your child does _______. Great. HOW does that happen? How. How. How.
    • The tribunal has stated in human rights complaints that the school is in the best position to have discretion to create your child’s education plan, so if they are the experts, then they better behave like the experts. It is their responsibility to investigate why your child is struggling and create a plan on how to remove the barriers. It’s called meaningful inquiry.
  4. File external complaints. Many parents threaten all sorts of things, and quite frankly, not many people do it. They are used to hearing every threat under the sun, and they just sit back and wait for you to explode and leave. If you file a complaint, you will stick out to them. They will underestimate you, until you show them with your behaviour that you are not a doormat. Sometimes, bringing in external eyes and forcing them to provide evidence to someone that they are fulfilling their legal obligations is exactly what needs to happen.
    • All of the external complaint departments are silos. They are VERY specific to the issue you are dealing with. A lot of the time, people could file with all of them as they are possibly dealing with overlapping issues, but not always.
    • To understand which external complaint deals with what issue, please read my page, Resolution Options in Education
    • Also, When should I file?
    • Why does this strategy work? The Damage Period
    • When you should file is basically asking the question to yourself – if, after giving advocacy a chance, what are you willing to tolerate or not tolerate? When will it be enough? Only you can answer that question.
  5. Section 11. In action – not making a decision is making a decision. The School Act Section 11 notes that a lack of a decision is still a decision. If the school is making a decision that “significantly affects the education, health or safety of a student,” you can appeal to the Board of Education.
    • To read more about this INTERNAL advocacy route, please read my page Section 11 – Appeal to the Board of Education
    • Telling the superintendent that you intend to file a Section 11 appeal should at least get you meetings with people in upper management.
    • Not many parents complain past the principal. So again, pulling in district eyes to your child’s school may be necessary. Some principals think they are untouchable. Sometimes we need to remind them that everyone has to answer to someone. It’s kind of how our society works. No one should be untouchable.
  6. Leave if you can. This is an absolute option to consider. There are a lot of parents who feel that if they leave, then “they will win”. This is the emotional well-being of your child. The best revenge is living well. This isn’t a competition. Take your kid and give them something better. Sometimes the fight is worth it, and sometimes it is not. There is nothing wrong with making your child and yourself the priority. They don’t deserve your energy. There is nothing wrong with moving schools or considering other learning options.
    • I say this as someone who is an absolute fighter. My kids were getting better care when I started filing complaints than compared to when I wasn’t. So, for my situation, it was absolutely worth it to stay. Filing complaints is a form of advocacy to push the line, create needed data and change. We need people willing to get in the ring. At the same time, if you need permission to save yourselves and focus on the health of your family, you have got it. I’ll absolutely give it to you. Depends on what your history is or current life issues, sometimes fighting the abusive people in the education system isn’t your journey to take. In the same breath, “Sometimes it is the people no one can imagine anything of who do the things no one can imagine.” ― Alan Turing.
    • No one else can make this decision but you. These aren’t easy decisions as they will impact your child, your family, and you. People just want to be told what to do. I can’t tell you what to do. This is your family, your life. Only you will experience and witness the benefits and consequences of your decisions. Whatever you decide, I hope you find peace.

In summary, the collaboration process can be a case-by-case part that isn’t written in stone and will be very specific to your child. For this reason, there isn’t a cookie-cutter instruction manual on what exactly you need to be doing next. Some people are very collaborative and other people are focused on control and are not collaborative at all. A lot of it will depend on your own resources, perception, values, priorities, and personal situations. For that reason, the uncertainty causes families a lot of stress, and they are terrified of making a mistake. I absolutely encourage you to reach out to support groups, counselling, advocacy coaches and non-profit organizations that offer support. Don’t do this alone. You want to lessen your suffering? Reach out to others. You have a community out there who can sit in front of you and say “me too”.

Want Progress in Team Meetings?

Having diverse opinions is really important in teamwork. When everyone thinks the same, we are in scary territory. It leads to groupthink. I really encourage you to read my blog from 2021, Groupthink…Does it Exist in School Districts and on School Boards.

We do not want a bunch of people who all think the same making all of the decisions. That will suck. It sounds lovely to the people who share the leading opinion, but it is really hell on wheels dressed in a bow. An absolute disaster for society.

I offer the Twinkie theory for consideration.

I watched a clip on Facebook recently which was really spot on. If you value community and relationships, you can’t make polarizing statements.

That is tricky. And I guess it will be context-specific and case-dependent for your audience in other situations. But in team meetings, this is the line we walk. This is where advocacy skill is demonstrated.

Advocating is hard because you have conversations with people you disagree with. You need to have these conversations in a way that allows for further discussions to continue. We don’t want them to shut the door and shut us out. Because most likely, the people you disagree with have a position of power, and they are the ones who are gatekeeping. If you don’t want to engage with people you disagree with, your advocacy will progress at a much slower rate.

The most highly skilled advocates that I have witnessed are people who are able to invite people into uncomfortable conversations and offer them enough safety in that conversation for them to be able to change their mind with dignity.

THAT is when progress occurs.

Failing Forward with Compassion

Advocacy is never a straight, linear path. It’s two steps forward, one step back. It’s rocky and risky. Messy, really.

As a society, we need to embrace failure. We want our government to be able to pivot when needed, to consult and always reflect on whether their policies and laws are working. There are so many times when unintended effects occur. We don’t ever really know sometimes, until we try something. Unfortunately, at times, it takes people speaking up over the harms they are experiencing to ever really know that something isn’t working. How many times do we hear horrific stories to realize just how wide the gaps are in a system?

Generally speaking, we aren’t great at predicting human behaviour. We think we are. We do risk assessments, but we are often wrong. Risk assessments are educated guesses. They are done in percentages. Given all of these factors, this person has a 30% chance of re-offending. That won’t be true for everyone. Due to the outliers, we overly punish more people out of fear, hoping to get it right 100% of the time.

We want our teachers to be able to pivot with new information. Just because we did something one way for the last 20 years doesn’t mean that we can’t do something different when presented with new information. We want people to be able to change their minds and not dig their heels in the sand when presented with harm.

As parents, we also reflect on whether our parenting strategies are working. Our kids are our greatest teachers. And they certainly let us know when our approaches don’t work.

We need to be compassionate towards ourselves. We put so much weight and responsibility on our shoulders. We don’t want to get anything wrong, as the impacts will be felt by our children. Some parents are so afraid to make a mistake with their advocacy efforts that they do nothing.

I encourage people to get comfortable with failing forward. We fail, we reflect, we learn, and then we take the next step. And the next. And the next. Perfectionism can put us in our own prison.

I have experienced failure a lot in my efforts to push the line. But never completely. Even in the failure, the line has moved. There has always been progress. Sometimes completely unintended. It’s always nice when that works out. Why, yes, I planned this all along. umm…not.

Advocating in our kids’ IEP meetings feels very risky. We can feel full of fear. Fear of pissing people off, and our kids not being liked because of us. That is the worst feeling. The worst kind of fear. It’s one thing if I risk a business idea, but to risk my child’s emotional safety feels intolerable.

Deciding what advocacy approach to take can feel like a risk. Do we file an external complaint? We do our research. We weigh the pros and cons. Sometimes, it’s the only thing we can do; we have tried everything else. Even if your complaint doesn’t unfold the way that you hope, just filing creates data that informs the system. Even if your TRB complaint doesn’t lead to a consent resolution, it stays on their file and will help the next parent, as the TRB often waits for patterns of behaviour to appear. Complaints led to an exclusion investigation from Ombudsperson BC, and I don’t see any successful case summaries about exclusion on their website.

We want society to be compassionate with our own children as they fail forward in life. Making mistakes as they grow. Learning from them. We can be compassionate with ourselves as we stumble around trying to figure things out. Testing out different strategies. Reflecting. Taking in new information. Pivoting. Trying again. It seems, to be successful at anything in life, we need to practice over and over. Which means, we aren’t successful the first time, but maybe the 50th time.

It can be nerve-wracking to advocate for our kids. I love support groups for this reason. Talking to other people who are also out there failing forward helps to make it seem less scary. You can do this.

“Be the change you wish to see in the world”. – Gandhi

Advocacy Writing – Your MLA

I have been learning just how powerful letter writing can be.

People from prison have written letters to anyone who will listen, and because of their letters, university courses in specific programs started. Non-profits have started up, and innocent people have gotten representation and their names cleared. Almost 100% of the time, the letter writers were completely unaware of the impact their letters had on people and how they planted seeds of change.

One advocate wrote so much to the government all over Canada that they didn’t realize she was just one person and thought she was a fully staffed national organization. Too funny!

There is an important concept in human rights law called “hindsight”. People can’t be held legally responsible for their inaction if they didn’t know about it. The law looks at what they knew at the time. Was their decision-making reasonable based on the information they had at the time?

We want people in positions of power not to be able to claim ignorance. If we are demanding action, we don’t want them to be able to say they didn’t know.

Part of the importance of filing external complaints is the data trail it leaves.

Advocacy fatigue is real for a lot of people. People with privilege really don’t understand the extreme weight that systemic oppression forces onto people. A book I think really sheds light on this with evidence from studies is called “Weathering: The Extraordinary Stress of Ordinary Life in an Unjust Society” by Arline T. Geronimus. I won’t provide any spoiler alerts, but it’s worth the read.

Some people are fuelled by advocacy whether they want to be or not. Many parents fit into this category. An example is my blog, “You Can Run on Anger“. Many neurodivergent people are especially in tune and responsive to injustice. It’s not by accident that many people who take up leadership roles in non-profits are ND themselves. We are built for this. I think of the Cars movie, “I am speed.” 😉 LOL

I think the human spirit is somehow tied to letter writing. A symbol of hope. We have always had the dreamy concept that if we are stranded on an island, what will save us is the letter in a bottle.

Here is something that is important to know about your MLA. Your school trustees and your local MLA rub elbows many times at community events. They often have a history together, and many school trustees run in their local MLA elections. Your school district does not want to embarrass their school trustees by you ratting out the district about all of the horrible things they are doing. Pull in the superintendent. Contacting your MLA can be a strategic move.

Your MLA will not get involved in your issues if you have open complaints. That includes Ombudsperson complaints, human rights complaints etc. You can still email them about everything, just don’t expect them to comment on anything.

If you want your information to remain confidential and anonymous, be clear about that at the start, and ask if this can be respected.

Your MLA is an important person because they need to listen to their constituents (you), hear about your issues and then they can use it to speak up about these issues in parliament. They also track how many people are coming to them about the same issue. This is what guides their work.

From Role of an MLA:

“Members meet regularly with constituents and attend community meetings and events. Constituency offices assist British Columbians who have questions or concerns about provincial programs, policies, and benefits. Members may also contact ministers or ministry officials about policies and programs affecting individual British Columbians.

There are also opportunities for Members to raise constituent perspectives and concerns in the Legislative Assembly during debates by making statements or presenting petitions, and by asking government to act on issues affecting residents of their electoral district or the province.“

They may not be able to solve your problem, but alerting them to the issues is very important. If I am going to plead anything with parents is to please make your experience count. Don’t let it get pushed under the rug like it never happened. Writing to your MLA and cc: the Human Rights Commissioner can make such a difference. Things accumulate. As more people write, the mountain builds. If you have one last breath in you, let it be this.

One of my favourite quotes from disability activist Judith Heumann is:

“Change never happens at the pace we think it should. It happens over years of people joining together, strategizing, sharing, and pulling all of the levers they possibly can. Gradually, excruciatingly slowly, things start to happen, and then suddenly, seemingly out of the blue, something will tip.” – Judith Heumann

What can be so emotionally unsatisfying is that people in positions of power NEVER want to let on just how powerful we really are. They are afraid to open the floodgates in society. The system as a whole is really trying to keep everyone somewhat calm so that they don’t storm the fortress, as has literally occurred so many times in history. They use delay. Or when you do hit a nerve, they strategically time things much later so that you aren’t aware it was you that actually brought that on. We can’t have them claim they didn’t know. When you email the Ministry of Education cc: Human Rights Commissioner and your MLA.

Know this: your voice matters. The more people speaking up does create cultural changes. What society views as acceptable now has changed over the decades, and all of that has been brought, carried and exposed on the backs of those most harmed. Being aware of people’s experiences changes our expectations of our government.

I give you the beginning.

Dear (insert MLA’s name)

I am writing to you on behalf of my child. My goal is for you to be aware of the issues that families are facing when they have a child with a disability/neurodivergence in education. We need systemic change.

Here is our story.

FOI and Human Rights Costs, Systemic Bullying.

Hey Parent(s)/Guardians,

Are you curious as to how much the school district was willing to spend on fighting you in the human rights tribunal system?

You can submit an FOI and find out.

This is a case where the parents of a Deaf child won a human rights complaint. When they were done they submitted an FOI request (Freedom of Information), and they found out that the school district spent $681,917.00 on legal fees to oppose them.

They won $150,000.00

Here is the newspaper article.

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/newfoundland-labrador/carter-churchill-nlesd-human-rights-complaint-payments-1.6852768

“Todd and Kimberly Churchill filed an access-to-information request with the school board following their win at the province’s human rights tribunal in March. They discovered the district had spent $681,917 on legal fees to oppose the family’s complaints dating back to 2017, when Carter was in kindergarten.”

“In the end, the human rights commission ruled the district violated Carter’s human rights by not offering him an education in American Sign Language and ordered the school board to pay an additional $150,000 to the Churchill family.“

“I think it’s completely disgusting, because the Department of Education will say there’s no money for teachers, no money for supports, no money for children with exceptionalities,” said Todd Churchill. “But yet there’s money, almost three-quarters of a million dollars … to defend the discrimination of a five-year-old deaf child in a wheelchair.”

I have written blogs before about how much money is being spent on human rights complaints. I have done a couple of FOI requests with the Ministry of Finance to get access to the information.

The Ministry of Education doesn’t even track this kind of information. They are being told how much the district’s legal fees are, but how much of that is human rights complaints against families, they don’t know. Or won’t tell.

Read here. The Financial Cost of Human Rights Complaints in Education

I have also started tracking lawyers’ fees in general, mostly focusing on the school districts in the Lower Mainland. You can obtain all of the information from their SOFI reports that they have to publicly post on their district website.

2022-2023 School Year*I didn’t include cents
SDLegal Fees SOFI Link
Vancouver    799, 700https://media.vsb.bc.ca/media/Default/medialib/2022-2023-statement-of-financial-information.69747169697.pdf
Burnaby206,471https://burnabyschools.ca/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/SOFI-2023-webcopy.pdf
Surrey76,628https://media.surreyschools.ca/media/Default/medialib/2022-2023-sofi-statement-of-financial-information.bafc72163618.pdf
Coquitlam 118,861https://www.sd43.bc.ca/District/Departments/Finance/Financial%20Statements/2022-23%20Statement%20of%20Financial%20Information.pdf
Richmond50,025https://sd38.bc.ca/sites/default/files/2024-01/SOFI%202023_Redacted.pdf
Delta 43,830https://www.deltasd.bc.ca/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2023/12/SD37-SOFI-2022-2023.pdf
North Van 142,542https://www.sd44.ca/Board/BudgetFinancialInformation/Documents/Statement%20of%20Financial%20Information%20-%20June%2030%2c%202023%20signed%20for%20web.pdf
Victoria58,715https://www.sd61.bc.ca/wp-content/uploads/sites/91/2023/11/2022-2023-Statement-of-Financial-Information-redacted.pdf
2023-2024 School Year
SDLegal Fees
Vancouver3,204,911https://media.vsb.bc.ca/media/Default/medialib/open-finance-and-personnel-agenda-2024-nov-13.4b231d77311.pdf
Burnaby386,871https://burnabyschools.ca/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/SOFI-2024-webcopy.pdf
Surrey94,477https://media.surreyschools.ca/media/Default/medialib/2023-2024-sofi-statement-of-financial-information.e9dc73180780.pdf
Coquitlam256,354https://www.sd43.bc.ca/District/Departments/Finance/Financial%20Statements/2023-24%20Statement%20of%20Financial%20Information.pdf
Richmond32,885https://sd38.bc.ca/sites/default/files/2024-12/Final%20SOFI%202324_Redacted.pdf
Delta53,802https://district.public.deltasd.bc.ca/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2024/12/SD37-SOFI-2023-2024.pdf
North Van313,220https://www.sd44.ca/Board/BudgetFinancialInformation/Documents/Statement%20of%20Financial%20Information%20-%20June%2030%2c%202024%20-%20for%20web.pdf
Victoria 57,521https://www.sd61.bc.ca/wp-content/uploads/sites/91/2024/11/2023-2024-Statement-of-Financial-Information_Redacted.pdf

(**Human rights cases can take years, so when high numbers are back to back, that looks interesting to me. Not all legal fees are human rights complaints against families.)

I bet the school district in N. L never saw Kim and Todd Churchill coming.

“The family said the school was “dismissive” of their concerns and repeatedly said he was receiving a quality education, despite being in an environment where he could not communicate. They were afraid for his well-being, they said, and he was socially isolated because he was unable to communicate with his peers and teachers.“

Sound familiar?

It’s quite ironic to me that school districts tout all these anti-bullying messages and messages of kindness and yet, this is the kind of stuff that they are famous for across the country.

So for anyone interested, FOI away!! You can always do an FOI to the Ministry of Finance at the same time, and see what you get. If they refuse to give it to you, you can file a complaint with OIPC and see what the OIPC thinks about that.

“You Can Run on Anger”

“Anger is a motivator

You can’t run on anything else

You can run on anger

It doesn’t need to be fed

It doesn’t need to sleep…

You want to get something done,

Get good and angry“

–Into the Fire (Netflix, Sept, 2024)

This is what a mother is saying during the intro of a Netflix series. It’s about her daughter who went missing and she is saying her daughter’s case was never investigated. She said she was going to find her daughter. If she had to walk God’s green earth, she would do it. She was talking about how before all this happened, she never even knew how to use a computer. She unravelled the mystery.

It’s interesting to me all of the skills we learn and how fast we are willing to step into the unknown when it’s for our kids.

One common thing that I think parents who file human rights complaints all have in common, on some varying levels, is anger.

A violation has occurred.

A trust violation.

We run on anger.

Anger truly is a motivator. Embrace it. It will be the gas in your gas tank.

Anger is like trying to tame a wild beast. Riding a bull. You need to focus it. Get real good. Find an outlet. Like a release valve. But focus that energy. Don’t focus that energy onto people. Channel that anger into MOVEMENT and LEARNING. It needs to flow. It can’t stay buried. It will fester. Breathe in. Breathe out. Learning breathing in, movement breathing out.

People accomplish things they never dreamed they could do. Make it work FOR you.

I love the quote, “Action is the antidote to despair” – Activist Joan Baez

The failing education system is a brewing pot of angry parents. The number of human rights complaints is increasing. (The financial costs of human rights complaints in public education). Is the Ministry of Education and Child Care paying attention yet? The scarcity in education is breathing the oxygen into the fire.

Trust me.

You can run on anger.

The Financial Cost of Human Rights Complaints in Public Education

(25 month period)

Freedom of Information Request – Ministry of Finance

This is for human rights complaints in public schools only. We aren’t even including private schools.

Settlement fees – $252,000
Legal fees – $1,088,772.33

The average settlement for the 16 claims is $15,000.00

To read the full FOI results click below.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ywz1rDQd1syFH_AbRT03koOVVsJnBtND/view?usp=sharing

I did a separate FOI request back in 2022 for 10 years.

From 2012-2022 almost 4.5 million in 10 years.

Almost $7,000,000.00 since 2012.

And the costs are rising.

“Jumping the Shark”

As I look back on my educational advocacy experience I ask myself…. at what point did I jump the shark? And what was the last straw that made me do it?

There is a term in show biz called “jumping the shark”. It’s when the TV series, which was doing amazingly well, starts to suck. At what point did the show “jump the shark”?

I think of jumping the shark in terms of our experience in education, when we realize what we hoped was going well, actually isn’t. When things take a turn. Reality sets in. In terms of advocacy, it is at this point in time we stop being doormats and prioritize being “nice”. (And really, advocating doesn’t mean ripping the skin off people’s faces. We can be respectful, and maintain civility.) Sometimes that means contacting district administration and filing external complaints if necessary. But the days of head nodding are over.

Parents naturally want a good relationship with their child’s school.

No parent wants to feel unwelcome. A troublemaker. Causing people discomfort. I never in my life could have predicted our family’s education experience when my children started kindergarten. Never. If someone told me 10 years ago, this is how things would be, I wouldn’t have believed them.

I am someone who is very sensitive. I know that about my own neurodiversity. If I mentally don’t feel well, I feel it physically. In big ways.

When I first started filing Teacher Regulation Branch complaints, of which I filed 4 of them at the start, I broke out into stress hives. They were all around my chest and back, ironically where my heart is.

I never wanted to see the look of dread on someone’s face when I walked into my children’s elementary school.

I wanted to have a good relationship with people.

But here is the thing…

If you lie to me.

If you gaslight me.

If you manipulate me.

If you ignore my emails.

You are the one who is breaking the good relationship with me first.

It’s already over. I just haven’t clued into that yet.

No matter how much discomfort someone feels around me, the bottom line, my kids come first. I struggle with prioritizing the feelings of adults in the schools over my kids. They are adults with resources and skills to regulate their own emotions. Children who are being discriminated against in school can do nothing but endure. They are trapped. Hoping their parents will pull them out of the quicksand.

At some point, you just have to see things for what they truly are.

Behind their smiles.

We need to snap into reality. Prioritize the physical, mental, and emotional safety of our kids, and just “jump the shark”.

Head nodding days are over.